Sunday, 6 August 2017

How to make yourself feel better when you are low // fed up // hormonal


"Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go."
Mooji


You wake up and instantly you know it's one of those days, or the first in a mini series of shitty days. There is no reason for it, not one you can identify anyway - you try to source the problem but actually things are pretty good and really there is no logical reason to feel this way - yet you do. There is a general feeling of being pissed off at everything and nothing at the same time. I have of course analysed this a lot, still with no solid conclusion other than it must be hormone related, it has to be.

So on these days what do I do to make myself feel a bit more with it? read on my friend, read on.

Let yourself feel crap

OK so this might seem a bit counter productive but keep reading and I will tell you why this works. Sometimes, it can take me a good day or two to realise that I am indeed in a shitty mood, when I do finally realise this I surrender to it.

"OK shitty mood you got me, take me, take me now to the depths of darkness"

A bit extreme but essentially you have to admit to yourself that you are not having a good few days, there's no "Put your finger on it problem" So the best thing to do is climb on the saddle and ride the mother. Once you surrender to the bad feelings allowing yourself to wallow in self pity, it actually feels like a weight has been lifted. I am no longer in denial and just riding it out, until it passes, which it will. I allow the crap feelings into my being and accept it for what it is, just a bad head day(s)

Do not try to be positive until you have admitted you feel crappy

Whatever you do, do not try and be all happy/positive to try and lift your mood - it doesn't work. Wow that doesn't sound encouraging does it! Save your positive pants for later, right now you need to embrace the foul mood. I am sure you have tried to lift your own mood before with positive statements etc, if you are like me it actually makes you more angry, here is an example of my thought process trying to be positive:

Positive affirmation: "I am full of joy and love......... I AM TRYING TO FEEL GOOD BUT IT'S NOT F*CKING WORKING! why isn't it working? According to the books it works, that Sarah is always bloody happy, bet she does loads of affirmations and it works great for her, well I am just a failure, like that awful dinner I made for the kids earlier that they hated, I am a crap mum...."

*Returns to affirmations* "I'm happy and full of gratitude.......YOU'RE A BLOODY LIAR YOU MISERABLE COW, OH I'M SOOOOO GRATEFUL FOR HAVING TO HOOVER THE BISCUIT COVERED LIVING ROOM FOR THE THIRD TIME TODAY."

See, positivity doesn't quite work yet, and it even spurs on the mood even more, save it for when you are coming out the other side.

Pass the baton

Try and take it easy, anything that can wait until later, leave it until later. Curl up on the sofa, cuppa in hand, and relax. Sounds heavenly, until the high pitched squeal of baby no2 fills the room. The reality is it can be hard to get chill out time, but where you can just take it easy and look after yourself a bit. I reach out to hubby and family to help with the kids, leave that urgent/not really that urgent errand until later etc. It is OK to get help, you can't do it all all of the time. Of course you do not have to tell everyone that you are not feeling great, that can open up a whole world of questions that quite frankly you can do without ("Are you depressed?") just give the required information for you to be able to pass the baton whilst you sort your head out.

Leave your goals for a while

I am practising the law of attraction at the moment, y'know set your goal, believe it is happening, see it manifesting etc. Now is not the time to practice the law of attraction, you could be doing more harm then good when you are in a bad mood. If you have bad feelings when you are trying to create/work towards your goal, you are just putting it out there that you have bad vibes about your goal (referring to step two trying to be positive - can end up with negative thoughts) take a break from working on your goals and instead work on yourself.

Clean the house

Tidy house tidy mind - FACT, well it is in my opinion anyway. If I have a thorough clean when I am not feeling too good it never fails to lift my spirits, I ALWAYS feel much better once I have a organised/clean house. Hence why my house represents a pit around these wallowing days coming up to the big clean. I feel like the house has a different energy once it has been attacked with the marigolds, out with the old and in with the new. It also gets you a bit more active which leads me on to my next one.....

Exercise

I know, tell me to sod off right now why don't you. I get it, I struggle to get motivated on these days but it does help. We all know it. Have you ever regretted working out? don't answer that, the question should be, generally on the whole exercising makes you feel better right? the answer is yes.

Talk to your inner child

Pretend your bad head is like a toddler. Toddlers do not yet have the capability to reason with things and they need an adult to break it down to them to explain why something is right/wrong (unless you are in the middle of a supermarket and they kick off big style - just give them the Peppa Pig lolly) So step outside yourself and try to explain to yourself the situation, it goes a little like this:

I feel weird/edgy/angry/general aura of crapdom - I have established there is no reason for this, could be hormones but I don't really know, don't get angry about not knowing the reason because that doesn't change anything, searching for an answer just make it worse. When you are feeling better you can read up on it.
There is nothing wrong with feeling crap - no one is happy 24/7 (if they say they are then they are lying) so why put pressure on yourself to be that non existent person? just accept there are good feeling days and bad feeling days.
You are not weak for surrendering or passing the baton, it actually makes you a stronger person to admit where you are at and to ask for help.
No one has to know anything you don't want them to know!

Sleep it off

9 times out of 10 I will go to sleep feeling meh and waking up feeling a bit better. I am one of those people that can sleep, a lot - don't hate me, it's my thing, one of my strong points as a human being. In fact I am so good at it I could include it on my CV. It is a form of therapy for me, and once I have had a good sleep I always feel a bit more together. Get an early night where you can because I believe it does a lot for your mental wellbeing.

Be more conscious of what goes in your mouth

I am not talking about being a toddler on this occasion (step away from the Liquitabs) I am talking about good old grub. I am not saying to go on a mega health kick, nor am I saying to pig out on cake, I am saying to be more conscious of it. For me it can go either way, I can either be calorie counting too much and need to step back and just relax about things. On the other hand I could be having a binge few days on wine and cake and really need to rein it in a bit. It is all about balance, if it swings more one way than the other it can affect your mental wellbeing. So if you have been denying yourself certain foods because they are seen as "bad" then have that little treat. If you have been over indulging, then maybe its time to step back and go back to basics with good natural food. I swing between both points, I just need to identify which camp I am in at that point and try to get myself back to balance.

Get the positive pants on

Now is the time for positivity, once you have accepted and experienced the crappy-ness, it is time to let it go and move on. Once I have done the above steps I am ready to put a new stance on things, pull myself together (cringe) and get shit done. I get to the point where actually I am getting a bit bored of the woe is me and I am ready to  move on to the next phase. I find positive affirmations to work well, I listen to YouTube videos where they read out affirmations like THIS ONE - try and listen to this and not feel even a tad pumped up, you can't.

I hope these tips have helped! if you have any tips then please feel free to leave them in the comments below.

You can also see the corresponding YouTube video below:


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2 comments

  1. Love this and the positive pants, so many uplifting tips. I have started taking high strength vitamins Premtesse to help with PMT which are really having an impact. It's so hard at times being a woman hey. Dolly Parton got that right! x

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  2. So many great tips! I think it's so important to allow yourself to feel rubbish and just let it pass! It's worse if you try and put a smile on!!
    Chantelle x
    The Girl In The Tartan Scarf

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